This is the favourite topic of most brothers and sisters in islam ,
I’m not an exception , I mean who doesn’t want companionship , love , attention , tranquility .
Who doesn’t want to find his /her “other half” , habibi , habibti , sweetie , boo , azeezatiey or anyhow you’d love to address your zawj .
Okay, most sisters want a tall good looking upright muslim man ,
sunnatic? Yes! , oh! He must have neat beards , a good job , his Quran recitation must be excellent. His voice must captivate me , his smile shouldn’t be less than fantabulous , he should cook for me too , take good care of me , our marriage would be more interesting than the nikkah itself , we would have three to four cute children bla bla bla
Its good to dream , its healthy and gives you an optimistic mind but Ukhti !
Have you for once thought of being the “Mrs Right” too?
Have you Sat down to analyze your flaws , your weakness ,
do you even want to improve yourself islamically ,spiritually , intellectually , morally , physically ?
Ya Ukhti , have you memorized the whole Quran?
Is your solat better than it was yesterday?
Your tahajjud? Is your fajr in check? Hmmmm.🤔
Do you speak Arabic fluently ?
Do you cook well?
Are you lazy with house chores ?
How about your anger issues?
Have you thought of that too?
How do you act when you’re angry?
Do you destroy home appliances , furniture , glasswares , or do you burn something….anything?
How about your parents ,
do you take good care of them ,
spend time with them ,
respect and honour them ,
pray for them , a
ssist them …
Do you teach them what you know in Islam , spend time with them , show them love , buy them gifts ? Cook for them?🍴🍳🍜🍜🍲
Or does this occur
Sibling: Oh sis I need help with my homework
Sis: Subhanallah! I’m busy! Please! I have my own homework too! What were u doing when the teacher was teaching!
La! La Ukhti La
Its wrong .
If you can’t be a good person , a good sister , a good daughter or neighbour. How would you be a good wife ??
Oh do you think it’s a natural thing that happens immediately after nikkah?
Do you think that it’s after nikkah that those good characters will start reflecting on you?
It starts now .
Worry about the present , build yourself , pray to Allah to improve you , acquire knowledge , lots and lots of knowledge … I know procrastination can be luring but try hard to manoeuvre , you can even ask Allah for strength to overcome your fears , laziness , dullness and procrastination .
In Sha Allah it’ll end up well .
Allah will send your “habibi” to you .
Ya Akhi Ya Akhi Ya Akhi
Sunnah is good ooo
As in , you want 4wives yeah?
One should be light skinned
The other dark skinned
The third caramel skinned
The fourth , white
This life is good Alhamdulillah
You want a good looking wife , that can cook , that has memorized the whole Quran , she must be this or that , her manners? Splendid , her modesty? Unbeatable . her voice? Thrilling .
She should pray tahajjud all night , tidy up the house , take care of the children , take care of you.
Her character must be perfect , no flaws …. Flawless habibti shey ???
Ma Sha Allah
Please start with yourself , do you know how to do all what you expect you future zawj to be perfect at ?
Do you deserve her?
Your dreams are big bro …enormous! Gigantic!
So should your aims , aspirations and goals be .
Make yourself the most wanted akhi due to his Islamic values ✅
Spiritual connectivity ✅
Just stick to Allah Azzawajal and he will give you the best
I know it’s not easy to lower your gaze nowadays
Because there r so many obstacles in ur path
And even when u run
Akhi these obstacles will run after u!
Infact these hurdles will be in front of u !!
Run Akhi from fitnah… Run
But for Allah’s sake if your legs fail , use a horse , a car , an airplane , a ship!
Anything! Always beseech Allah for assistance .
Patience is very rewarding , when the time is right . Ar Rahman will bless you with the best and I can not wait to eat nikkah rice In Sha Allah
Allah loves a chaste man or woman
Verses from Al Quran :
Who abstain from sex, (Surah Al-Muminun, 5 )
Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or
(the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (in their
case) they are free from blame, (Surah Al-Muminun, 6)
Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze
and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for
them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
(Surah An-Nur, 30 )
And Mary the daughter of ‘Imran, who guarded her chastity;
and We breathed into (her body) of Our spirit; and she
testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His
Revelations, and was one of the devout (servants). (Surah
At-Tahrim, 12 )
Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women.
Good women are for good men, and good
men for good women;
such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision.