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This is the favourite topic of most brothers and sisters in islam ,

 I’m not an exception , I mean who doesn’t want companionship , love , attention , tranquility . 

Who doesn’t want to find his /her “other half” , habibi , habibti , sweetie , boo , azeezatiey or anyhow you’d love to address your zawj . 
Okay, most sisters want a tall  good looking  upright muslim man , 

sunnatic? Yes! , oh! He must have neat beards , a good job , his Quran recitation must be excellent. His voice must captivate me , his smile shouldn’t be less than fantabulous , he should cook for me too , take good care of me , our marriage would be more interesting than the nikkah itself , we would have three to four cute children bla bla bla
Its good to dream , its healthy and gives you an optimistic mind but Ukhti ! 

Have you for once thought of being the “Mrs Right” too? 

Have you Sat down to analyze your flaws , your weakness , 

do you even want to improve yourself islamically ,spiritually , intellectually , morally , physically ? 

Ya Ukhti , have you memorized the whole Quran? 

Is your solat better than it was yesterday?

 Your tahajjud? Is your fajr in check? Hmmmm.🤔

Do you speak Arabic fluently ?

Do you cook well? 

Are you lazy with house chores ?

How about your anger issues?

Have you thought of that too? 

How do you act when you’re angry?

Do you destroy home appliances , furniture , glasswares , or do you burn something….anything? 

How about your parents , 

do you take good care of them , 

spend time with them , 

respect and honour them , 

pray for them , a

ssist them …

your mother.
Your siblings? 

Do you teach them what you know in Islam , spend time with them , show them love , buy them gifts ? Cook for them?🍴🍳🍜🍜🍲
Or does this occur 
Sibling: Oh sis I need help with my homework

Sis: Subhanallah! I’m busy! Please! I have my own homework too! What were u doing when the teacher was teaching! 
La! La Ukhti La

Its wrong .

If you can’t be a good person , a good sister , a good daughter or neighbour. How would you be a good wife ??

Oh do you think it’s a natural thing that happens immediately after nikkah? 

Do you think that it’s after nikkah that those good characters will start reflecting on you? 

It starts now .

Worry about the present , build yourself , pray to Allah to improve you , acquire knowledge , lots and lots of knowledge … I know procrastination can be luring but try hard to manoeuvre , you can even ask Allah for strength to overcome your fears , laziness ,  dullness and procrastination .

In Sha Allah it’ll end up well .

Allah will send your “habibi” to you .

Ya Akhi Ya Akhi  Ya Akhi
Sunnah is good ooo

As in , you want 4wives yeah?

One should be light skinned

The other dark skinned

The third caramel skinned 

The fourth , white 

This life is good Alhamdulillah
You want a good looking wife , that can cook , that has memorized the whole Quran , she must be this or that , her manners? Splendid , her modesty? Unbeatable . her voice? Thrilling .

She should pray tahajjud all night , tidy up the house , take care of the children , take care of you.

Her character must be perfect , no flaws  …. Flawless habibti shey ??? 

Ma Sha Allah
Please start with yourself , do you know how to do all what you expect you future zawj to be perfect at ? 

Do you deserve her? 

Your dreams are big bro …enormous! Gigantic! 

So should your aims , aspirations and goals be .

Make yourself the most wanted akhi due to his Islamic values ✅
Intellectual acuity✅
Spiritual connectivity ✅
Just stick to Allah Azzawajal and he will give you the best
I know it’s not easy to lower your gaze nowadays

Because there r so many obstacles in ur path

And even when u run 

Akhi these obstacles will run after u! 

Infact these hurdles will be in front of u !!

Run Akhi from fitnah… Run
But for Allah’s sake if your legs fail , use a horse , a car , an airplane , a ship!

 Anything! Always beseech Allah for assistance .
Patience is very rewarding , when the time is right . Ar Rahman will bless you with the best and I can not wait to eat nikkah rice In Sha Allah 
Allah loves a chaste man or woman
Verses from Al Quran : 
Who abstain from sex, (Surah Al-Muminun, 5 )

Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or

(the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (in their

case) they are free from blame, (Surah Al-Muminun, 6)
Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze

and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for

them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

(Surah An-Nur, 30 )
And Mary the daughter of ‘Imran, who guarded her chastity;

and We breathed into (her body) of Our spirit; and she

testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His

Revelations, and was one of the devout (servants). (Surah

At-Tahrim, 12 )
Lastly ….


Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. 

Good women are for good men, and good

men for good women; 

such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision.


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